Simply Complicated

Life is Simple.

We over-complicate it…in our minds.

But wait a minute! Life IS complicated.

And  Humans, today, are over-simplifying its laws and principles. The Shallow Hal effect…

What I’m sure of is: We must not live life without reflecting, without waking up, opening our eyes to the Light, asking questions in an attempt to decode the many Why’s and How’s…That is our calling. Actually it’s even more than that, it’s our DUTY.


The Myth of Acceptance: An attempt to Understand

It’s a Myth yes…

You simply think you understand what Acceptance is about, what does it imply, how does it look like…you may have rationalized the different interpretations of this mystic word:

– Embracing life events as they come

– Stop Resisting what’s happening in your life

– Letting go

– Living the present moment…past and future are but illusions

– Loving Yourself unconditionally

– Being aligned with the natural laws of the Universe

– Just Being

All of these are true and deep readings of Acceptance transmitted to us by wise men’s words and thoughts. They helped us to get the concept.

Yet Acceptance can never be Understood. It’s to be Known and experienced.

So What is Acceptance? it seems like a simple question. The trap lies in seeking its answer through our “mind” – our concrete-dimensional-limited mind.

I’m telling this because Acceptance has been something I was looking for. And I’ve just realized that I won’t ever find it as long as I keep looking for it…Just like the air, Acceptance is always there but it’s up to you to inhale it and let it in.

Today I’m practicing letting it in, and I can’t tell you how weird it feels like! How uncomfortable and scary it is too!  The whole thing is paradoxical: while allowing acceptance to penetrate you, your mind is on alert! It starts creating anxiety and fear scenarios with the aim of protecting you against this unknown intruder, so you find yourself in need of accepting “Acceptance” itself!!!

But again, it’s when you allow yourself to feel the worry: feeling it everywhere in your body, feeling how it invades your throat, your chest, your stomach, your arms, and your legs. Feeling how much it hurts without attempting to stop it. Then you start realizing that it is your mind that is creating those stories inside your head and pushing you to act upon them as if they were real. The moment you are able to identify the scenarios as “scenarios”, your awareness brings you out of them. Just like a storm…it cannot be stopped, you just prepare yourself to experience it until it passes over you. And just a few minutes later (and maybe a few hours), the sun is shining again and the blue sky sings out its joyful melodies.

For Me, to Accept, I shall allow myself to feel the pain (the emotional pain), while fully letting it in before trying to let it out…

And that is my attempt to understand.


About Knowing Thyself

Did the idea of knowing who you really are ever crossed your mind? And if Yes, what exactly do you look for? Is it about what you think you are or about what others think of you ? Who defines you? Is it you? your family? your colleagues? your friends? or is it your whole society?

Well,  apparently “Knowing Thyself” is a decision only taken by those who seek Truth. In other words, it is a quest for what is Authentic.

Authentic, Timeless, and Real.

I personally took this decision 2 years ago and I’m currently in the middle of the road. But going back in time, when I embarked on this journey, I didn’t think about getting prepared for it. Getting Prepared wasn’t even on my mind!  Naive was I when I thought that going through such an experience would be about constant joy and enlightenment…

Of course you get to experience unique moments of joy that will always remain engraved in your memory, and of course you get to experience delightful moments of enlightenment that keep changing the routes leading to your chosen Path.

Yet the experience is much more complex and intense. Because there will be moments when you’ll feel you’re loosing yourself…there will be moments when you’ll have to let go off the scenarios that no longer serve you..there will be moments when you will have to put all the masks off and deal with the world with your naked truth…there will be moments of vulnerability which you will have to accept and deal with…there will be moments of ferocious war between what you think you are and what you truly are…

It is a risky decision to take, a very brave and courageous one. And only those who breath Truthfulness will rise above and conquer. I don’t mean to scare anyone who’s considering having the experience. Actually it is the one and only experience that will make you literally feel “ALIVE”, otherwise you continue leading  the life of unconscious dormant fellow men. And that my friend is a life half lived, if not lived at all…

But what I would really invite you to do is to think about it in a panoramic view and ask yourself a question:

What does it really take to Know my Authentic Self? 

After giving it a deep serious thought and in case your answer is “Whatever it takes…”, then Welcome to the greater experience of your life 🙂


My thoughts about Meditation

A few years ago, for me the word “meditation” was for those spiritual gurus living in their own bubble far from the real world.

But the universe had other plans for me, opening the door for a self discovery path. This is when I started to realize how shallow my judgments were. My thoughts about meditation were completely distorted. Enjoying a quiet mind was the simple message from this practice. And how a quiet mind can enhance the quality of your life.

So I found myself interested in practicing this exercise that would bring me peace of mind. Starting with 5 minutes of sitting in a quiet room with soothing music in the background, the experience was not so bad! Actually the mind didn’t like it that much, but something deeper (I don’t know what to call it) was enjoying the process…
One year later I got introduced to Transcendental Meditation. A program of 20 minutes practiced twice per day. I gladly welcomed it and was lucky to have gone through deep states of pure quietness. Yet the mind didn’t appear to have been enjoying as such and declared WAR. In this particular time I was  facing some problems in my relationship where anxiety and stress took the leading roles. Meditating started to become a painful process where feelings of resistance and fear were exaggerated. Hiding away was my reaction, and I stopped meditating.

I released my mind struggle yet that “thing” inside of me that enjoyed the whole experience the very 1st time I tried it didn’t disappear. Actually it started to resonate in my heart begging me to give it another shot.

Several months passed by with me ignoring the voice. However I knew I’d come back. And I did. And it got better.

The secret was simply letting go off all my expectations, embracing the experience as it is even with the mind chatter. Today I meditate once per day for 20 minutes. And it feels good.


Postponing Happiness

I’m not Happy… I’m not Happy because my life is a mess, I can’t achieve my goals, I have debts, I live from paycheck to paycheck, I eat junk food, I’m fat, I rarely exercise, I’m not progressing the way I want in my career, I have troubles in my relationships and people can’t even understand me.

I’m just not Happy living this life…

What???!! You want me to be happy Now? Are you blind? Didn’t you hear what I just said? Do you want me to be unrealistic and deceive my own self? What is good about my life to be happy about? I’m not even close to where I want to be!

If I won’t be happy now, when I will be Happy? Well, when I achieve my dreams and goals. Yes Only when I do it…Uhhh, yeah of course I have achieved some stuff before, but it’s different now..I mean now I want different things. What I used to dream of yesterday no longer serves me today…

Yes I know I thought I was going to be happy when I’ve achieved those stuff but…you know what? Even after I did, I wasn’t that happy! I expected to be happier honestly but I just wasn’t…

Oh! Do you want to say that I keep telling myself I will be happy when…….but when I’ll do it, I will not feel that content just like before?

My mind is tricking me, isn’t it? Those stuff I want to achieve will not bring me happiness on their own..is this what you want to tell me?

There will always be something missing, yet there is always more to run after. Kind of a Mirage. An Illusion…

So linking happiness with achievement is an illusion. Happiness is independent. An independent reality. It needs no external resources to be fully experienced.

Postponing Happiness is the illusion. So it’s about taking the decision to be content and happy right now, right here!

Happiness is a Choice I shall make. A Choice I’m responsible for…


A Curse called Planning

Okay..it’s time for me now to admit some facts about the role of planning in my life:

Don’t get it wrong, I always loved planning stuff! Taking the time to reflect about something, putting ideas into a logical sequence, prioritizing, connecting the dots. One of the mind’s games that I really enjoy doing…but the story doesn’t end here.

I remember once in a job interview, an executive manager asked me the traditional question: What do you think your best skills are? And with a confident smile I answered: Planning. “Planning on its own is not a positive skill, unless it is translated into feasible effective actions.” That was his answer. And Reddish was the color of my face.

All goes well in the planning process (for me), but when it starts hitting the scheduling and action plan phases, my enthusiasm hits the ground! So the result is either starting acting upon the plan for a day, 2, and even a week, OR settling with watching my plan hanged on the wall just like a piece of art..and guess what with time passing by, you eventually don’t notice it anymore.

So it goes like that: Plans as long as they are written on a piece of paper look appealing. Something happens afterwards, when these written ideas need to be manifested! I always wondered about the reasons: lack of discipline, lack of belief, laziness, procrastination…although these ones seem to be more of symptoms rather than deep and true justifications.

The dilemma goes further when I start to feel trapped by my plans. I start to hate them, they just make me feel imprisoned and suck all the air out of the room. This strong feeling of being chained to whatever commitment does something to me. And achieving the plan (that I chose  for my own growth) turns out to be a struggle…


Socrates’ Secret

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” – Socrates

Huh?

Do you want to tell me that during all these years where we have been chasing our desires, listing our endless goals, starving to get more & more of “stuff” in our lives, and jumping from one dream to another…all of that was a big fat illusion?

Do you want to tell me that the more we achieve, the more we feel unhappy? Do you want to say that once we get what we want, we start looking for the next to-do thing in our list? and that we don’t even dedicate the time to enjoy what we have just achieved?

Do you want to tell me that we stop our joy until we get what we want, yet once we do we find out that we are still unhappy? that we neither enjoy the journey nor the results?

Do you want to tell me that we are like rats in a race? thriving to get to the “Finish” point, while all we do is starting all over again from where we began?

Do you want to tell me that the paradigms of “Doing More” and “Getting More” that the modern societies planted in our minds, fed it through their Education and Economical systems are deceptive and misleading?

Four Hundred years BC you’ve revealed this to the human race…400 years BC!!!

Have we been manipulated? Or have we contributed to our own manipulation?

The Truth is un-arguable Socrates…We cannot hit ourselves against it because if we do we will fall…