Monthly Archives: December 2011

Socrates’ Secret

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” – Socrates

Huh?

Do you want to tell me that during all these years where we have been chasing our desires, listing our endless goals, starving to get more & more of “stuff” in our lives, and jumping from one dream to another…all of that was a big fat illusion?

Do you want to tell me that the more we achieve, the more we feel unhappy? Do you want to say that once we get what we want, we start looking for the next to-do thing in our list? and that we don’t even dedicate the time to enjoy what we have just achieved?

Do you want to tell me that we stop our joy until we get what we want, yet once we do we find out that we are still unhappy? that we neither enjoy the journey nor the results?

Do you want to tell me that we are like rats in a race? thriving to get to the “Finish” point, while all we do is starting all over again from where we began?

Do you want to tell me that the paradigms of “Doing More” and “Getting More” that the modern societies planted in our minds, fed it through their Education and Economical systems are deceptive and misleading?

Four Hundred years BC you’ve revealed this to the human race…400 years BC!!!

Have we been manipulated? Or have we contributed to our own manipulation?

The Truth is un-arguable Socrates…We cannot hit ourselves against it because if we do we will fall…

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The Paradox of Choice

I just finished watching this TED talk by Barry Schwartz, American Psychologist, author of the book “The Paradox of Choice, Why more is Less”.

What Barry is trying to say is that the more choices we have, the more expectations we have, the more hesitated we become, the more frustrated we feel, especially when we start to think that our choice was not the best one.

As an aggressive believer in Freedom of Choice, my paradigm shifted a little bit when I opened my eyes to this hypothesis, although it seems to be much more of a fact.

And what is more mysterious is that even when you have a clear set of criteria of what your choice shall be, you still feel uncomfortable when faced with various ones. The battle of choosing what is “perfect” turns into an intrinsic war and ends up with feelings of blame and guilt. “I could have done better” kind of statements pop up in your mind, you start wining and complaining…So, instead of embracing the choice, believing in it and turning it into a promising opportunity, you give it up. You lose it the moment you started the re-thinking process of the other choices…

This will lead us to a conclusion: Limit your choices, Eliminate the unnecessary. In other words Live Simply. A very challenging conclusion when it comes to practice in a world that believes “More” is equivalent to “Better”…


Give it a Meaning

I’ve come  to a conclusion that may help us change our behavior towards what we are unhappy about in our lives.

The Rational goes like this:

We keep doing things in  our lives  (job, studies, diet, exercising, general lifestyle..etc) that make us unhappy, whether it is because we are not convinced of doing them, or because we think we have no other options. Whatever the motive is, the result is whenever we do them , we find ourselves walking through the path of sadness and we unconsciously  empower the destructive negative emotions of victimization, lack of power, lack of influence, hopelessness…

Let’s assume that we still have to keep doing these stuff since we are not yet able to see other alternatives. What we ought to do then is to find a way to live in harmony with them. And actually we are generally very good at making this camouflage, pretending to embrace our life realities. Yet, soon the masks go down and the struggle remains.

So what if we try to fix this by diving deeper than the surface. What if we try to give a MEANING for whatever that we do in our lives.  I noticed that when we give a meaning to any action we take, it adds a sense of purpose, a signification. It adds another dimension, a value…Exploring the meaning behind our actions will truly help  us accept what we were not able to accept so far, and  it might eventually grant us the power to dare and make a change. It will put straight Why we do what we do and how long we want to carry this luggage with us.

And one final note, Getting the meaning out is a process that I believe needs Mind Flexibility. We must be willing to let go of our own paradigms, contemplate the situation from different perspectives, and finally link the dots.

Try it, you have nothing to lose anyway! and I will try it myself and report the results that I believe will make a difference…


Awaken


The Questions Are Mine

These are not questions. Call them interrogative statements of wonder, inspection, puzzlement..

– Why do we struggle to see the picture clear?

– Why can’t we clearly listen to the truth echoing in our hearts?

– Why don’t we trust the voices of our instincts?

– Why don’t we act upon our true beliefs?

– Why do we choose our own stagnation while we strive for real change?

– Why do we hold on to our griefs while all we want is to be happy?

– Why don’t we change what we keep condemning and criticizing?

– Why don’t we get out of our own buble and envy those who do?

– Why do we ignore the heart when it cries out to be heard?

– Why do we ignore the soul when it burns to be freely expressed?

– Why do we ignore the body when it keeps sending us signals of exhaustion?

The Answers are yours…