Category Archives: Freedom

About Knowing Thyself

Did the idea of knowing who you really are ever crossed your mind? And if Yes, what exactly do you look for? Is it about what you think you are or about what others think of you ? Who defines you? Is it you? your family? your colleagues? your friends? or is it your whole society?

Well,  apparently “Knowing Thyself” is a decision only taken by those who seek Truth. In other words, it is a quest for what is Authentic.

Authentic, Timeless, and Real.

I personally took this decision 2 years ago and I’m currently in the middle of the road. But going back in time, when I embarked on this journey, I didn’t think about getting prepared for it. Getting Prepared wasn’t even on my mind!  Naive was I when I thought that going through such an experience would be about constant joy and enlightenment…

Of course you get to experience unique moments of joy that will always remain engraved in your memory, and of course you get to experience delightful moments of enlightenment that keep changing the routes leading to your chosen Path.

Yet the experience is much more complex and intense. Because there will be moments when you’ll feel you’re loosing yourself…there will be moments when you’ll have to let go off the scenarios that no longer serve you..there will be moments when you will have to put all the masks off and deal with the world with your naked truth…there will be moments of vulnerability which you will have to accept and deal with…there will be moments of ferocious war between what you think you are and what you truly are…

It is a risky decision to take, a very brave and courageous one. And only those who breath Truthfulness will rise above and conquer. I don’t mean to scare anyone who’s considering having the experience. Actually it is the one and only experience that will make you literally feel “ALIVE”, otherwise you continue leading  the life of unconscious dormant fellow men. And that my friend is a life half lived, if not lived at all…

But what I would really invite you to do is to think about it in a panoramic view and ask yourself a question:

What does it really take to Know my Authentic Self? 

After giving it a deep serious thought and in case your answer is “Whatever it takes…”, then Welcome to the greater experience of your life 🙂

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A Curse called Planning

Okay..it’s time for me now to admit some facts about the role of planning in my life:

Don’t get it wrong, I always loved planning stuff! Taking the time to reflect about something, putting ideas into a logical sequence, prioritizing, connecting the dots. One of the mind’s games that I really enjoy doing…but the story doesn’t end here.

I remember once in a job interview, an executive manager asked me the traditional question: What do you think your best skills are? And with a confident smile I answered: Planning. “Planning on its own is not a positive skill, unless it is translated into feasible effective actions.” That was his answer. And Reddish was the color of my face.

All goes well in the planning process (for me), but when it starts hitting the scheduling and action plan phases, my enthusiasm hits the ground! So the result is either starting acting upon the plan for a day, 2, and even a week, OR settling with watching my plan hanged on the wall just like a piece of art..and guess what with time passing by, you eventually don’t notice it anymore.

So it goes like that: Plans as long as they are written on a piece of paper look appealing. Something happens afterwards, when these written ideas need to be manifested! I always wondered about the reasons: lack of discipline, lack of belief, laziness, procrastination…although these ones seem to be more of symptoms rather than deep and true justifications.

The dilemma goes further when I start to feel trapped by my plans. I start to hate them, they just make me feel imprisoned and suck all the air out of the room. This strong feeling of being chained to whatever commitment does something to me. And achieving the plan (that I chose  for my own growth) turns out to be a struggle…


The Paradox of Choice

I just finished watching this TED talk by Barry Schwartz, American Psychologist, author of the book “The Paradox of Choice, Why more is Less”.

What Barry is trying to say is that the more choices we have, the more expectations we have, the more hesitated we become, the more frustrated we feel, especially when we start to think that our choice was not the best one.

As an aggressive believer in Freedom of Choice, my paradigm shifted a little bit when I opened my eyes to this hypothesis, although it seems to be much more of a fact.

And what is more mysterious is that even when you have a clear set of criteria of what your choice shall be, you still feel uncomfortable when faced with various ones. The battle of choosing what is “perfect” turns into an intrinsic war and ends up with feelings of blame and guilt. “I could have done better” kind of statements pop up in your mind, you start wining and complaining…So, instead of embracing the choice, believing in it and turning it into a promising opportunity, you give it up. You lose it the moment you started the re-thinking process of the other choices…

This will lead us to a conclusion: Limit your choices, Eliminate the unnecessary. In other words Live Simply. A very challenging conclusion when it comes to practice in a world that believes “More” is equivalent to “Better”…


Give it a Meaning

I’ve come  to a conclusion that may help us change our behavior towards what we are unhappy about in our lives.

The Rational goes like this:

We keep doing things in  our lives  (job, studies, diet, exercising, general lifestyle..etc) that make us unhappy, whether it is because we are not convinced of doing them, or because we think we have no other options. Whatever the motive is, the result is whenever we do them , we find ourselves walking through the path of sadness and we unconsciously  empower the destructive negative emotions of victimization, lack of power, lack of influence, hopelessness…

Let’s assume that we still have to keep doing these stuff since we are not yet able to see other alternatives. What we ought to do then is to find a way to live in harmony with them. And actually we are generally very good at making this camouflage, pretending to embrace our life realities. Yet, soon the masks go down and the struggle remains.

So what if we try to fix this by diving deeper than the surface. What if we try to give a MEANING for whatever that we do in our lives.  I noticed that when we give a meaning to any action we take, it adds a sense of purpose, a signification. It adds another dimension, a value…Exploring the meaning behind our actions will truly help  us accept what we were not able to accept so far, and  it might eventually grant us the power to dare and make a change. It will put straight Why we do what we do and how long we want to carry this luggage with us.

And one final note, Getting the meaning out is a process that I believe needs Mind Flexibility. We must be willing to let go of our own paradigms, contemplate the situation from different perspectives, and finally link the dots.

Try it, you have nothing to lose anyway! and I will try it myself and report the results that I believe will make a difference…


When Death told me a Secret

Today while driving, I suddenly was haunted by the thought of death…and for the first time in my life it didn’t creep me out! Actually I found myself in ease with it, accepting it, with no regrets: I can die right here right now!

Honestly I used to have a bad relationship with the idea of Death but with time I learned to manage it. And by managing I only mean eliminating the fear…However I still had the conviction that it’d be cooler if I had the chance to live more coz I just didn’t fulfill my dharma yet! (Which is something I know a little about) but anyway that was my reason and maybe it was nothing more than a pretext…

Today I didn’t reject the idea of death or felt like it’d be better to postpone it. Today I thought “well it’s ok to die now”. I simply knew I’ll be in a better place!!  (guess what? I never used to like this specific statement which we always repeat to console others on death occasions, since I wasn’t able to perceive it and believe in it)

What is more ambiguous is that I know I was not an angel and I did what I consider as bad stuff, yet that didn’t stop me from fully embracing death… The thought of meeting God, the creator, the one who took care of me during all this time, who gave me things, who felt my pain and helped me move forward during hard times, the one who created this universe for me, the sun, the moon, the sky, the trees.. the one who offered me everything I had, I have and will ever have.

The question is: How come I was afraid of such an idea? How come I’ve been rejecting it?

Nonsense!

I realized this: Only with death, I will belong. Death will provide me with all what I’ve been hungry for:  Peace. In this place where we’re supposed to go after dying, I will be on top of everything. I will be detached from everything yet happy and serene. I will be free of my egoistic self. I will be me, the real me, with no masks, and no efforts to become someone else for the sake of others. Death will give my soul what it has been longing for since day one on Earth.  And looking forward to it makes complete sense. Not by committing suicide of course! I’m not talking here about conscience, values, dos and don’ts..I’m just reflecting about the only TRUE and REAL thing in our existence.

And just like a bride who gets ready for the most important day of her life,  we shall get ready to welcome Death too. Yes! It’s another phase in our lives that we shall prepare ourselves for. And just like the pre-wedding phase, we will experience moments of sadness, happiness, fear, serenity,frustration, satisfaction, losses, and gains… But on the d-day we will realize how much it was worth getting ready for it 🙂


Don’t Bury the Light

Legendary Pink Floyd – The Wall, “Hey You”

Hey you

Out there in the cold

Getting lonely, getting old

Can you feel me?

Hey you

Standing in the aisles

With itchy feet and fading smiles

Can you feel me?

Hey you

Don’t help them to bury the light

Don’t give in without a fight


Egypt’s voice of Freedom

What happened in Egypt, words will fail to describe it..During 18 consecutive days I lived a dream, a surreal dream..

I realized many things about myself and about human beings in general. I opened my eyes and have come to understand many of the values and principles we were taught, we once read about, and never experienced them the way we did in the past 18 days..

1- When you believe in something with passion, you will achieve it

2- While pursuing your goals, challenges rise and getting to where you want might seem complicated, tough, and even impossible…but eventually keeping faith in your dreams lead you there no matter what happens during the journey

3- In the journey of dreams’ pursuit, some might object you, suspect in your abilities, voices of rejection might get loud…again keep faith in God, and then in yourself and u will achieve those dreams

4- When confusion prevails, listen to the voice of your heart

5- We are all alike; we are all similar, having the same desires of freedom and happiness

6- Acceptance. Accepting our differences just like our similarities

7- Judgment. Who are we to judge each other? If you don’t like to be judged then don’t judge your brother

8- More Listening, less Talking

9- Less Talking (especially the type of talks where accusations and condemnations are being thrown to each other), More ACTION: translate your beliefs and values into actions. And these actions don’t have to be HUGE, just simple and little actions…

10- Patriotism is a word I never experienced its real meaning. Now I know, and realize what I have been missing

11- Belonging to a greater cause than yourself adds a deep meaning to your life

12-In the deepest part of our souls, we all believe we must add value, help each other and make a difference

13- Patience. When you are trying to reach something and nothing is happening yet, it doesn’t necessarily mean that nothing is happening. Actually something unseen is happening, and all you need is just a little patience

14- Forgiveness. Forgive those who considered you as a sinner, a failure, or a stubborn risk taker. They will admire your courage one day and will respect u eventually

15- Never disrespect or underestimate the power of change. We can all change if we want to, if we want it enough

16- Change can look frightening but it is also liberating and empowering

17- Self Deception is worse than the deception of others

18- It all starts small and ends big. And what we call an end is another small beginning of something’s big end

19- Do what you believe in, heart and soul, and you will see the results one day

And I believe words r still unable to express the real value of all these lessons…Thank you Egypt for waking me up, Thank you for loving me, Thank you for believing..