Category Archives: Happiness

About Knowing Thyself

Did the idea of knowing who you really are ever crossed your mind? And if Yes, what exactly do you look for? Is it about what you think you are or about what others think of you ? Who defines you? Is it you? your family? your colleagues? your friends? or is it your whole society?

Well,  apparently “Knowing Thyself” is a decision only taken by those who seek Truth. In other words, it is a quest for what is Authentic.

Authentic, Timeless, and Real.

I personally took this decision 2 years ago and I’m currently in the middle of the road. But going back in time, when I embarked on this journey, I didn’t think about getting prepared for it. Getting Prepared wasn’t even on my mind!  Naive was I when I thought that going through such an experience would be about constant joy and enlightenment…

Of course you get to experience unique moments of joy that will always remain engraved in your memory, and of course you get to experience delightful moments of enlightenment that keep changing the routes leading to your chosen Path.

Yet the experience is much more complex and intense. Because there will be moments when you’ll feel you’re loosing yourself…there will be moments when you’ll have to let go off the scenarios that no longer serve you..there will be moments when you will have to put all the masks off and deal with the world with your naked truth…there will be moments of vulnerability which you will have to accept and deal with…there will be moments of ferocious war between what you think you are and what you truly are…

It is a risky decision to take, a very brave and courageous one. And only those who breath Truthfulness will rise above and conquer. I don’t mean to scare anyone who’s considering having the experience. Actually it is the one and only experience that will make you literally feel “ALIVE”, otherwise you continue leading  the life of unconscious dormant fellow men. And that my friend is a life half lived, if not lived at all…

But what I would really invite you to do is to think about it in a panoramic view and ask yourself a question:

What does it really take to Know my Authentic Self? 

After giving it a deep serious thought and in case your answer is “Whatever it takes…”, then Welcome to the greater experience of your life 🙂


Postponing Happiness

I’m not Happy… I’m not Happy because my life is a mess, I can’t achieve my goals, I have debts, I live from paycheck to paycheck, I eat junk food, I’m fat, I rarely exercise, I’m not progressing the way I want in my career, I have troubles in my relationships and people can’t even understand me.

I’m just not Happy living this life…

What???!! You want me to be happy Now? Are you blind? Didn’t you hear what I just said? Do you want me to be unrealistic and deceive my own self? What is good about my life to be happy about? I’m not even close to where I want to be!

If I won’t be happy now, when I will be Happy? Well, when I achieve my dreams and goals. Yes Only when I do it…Uhhh, yeah of course I have achieved some stuff before, but it’s different now..I mean now I want different things. What I used to dream of yesterday no longer serves me today…

Yes I know I thought I was going to be happy when I’ve achieved those stuff but…you know what? Even after I did, I wasn’t that happy! I expected to be happier honestly but I just wasn’t…

Oh! Do you want to say that I keep telling myself I will be happy when…….but when I’ll do it, I will not feel that content just like before?

My mind is tricking me, isn’t it? Those stuff I want to achieve will not bring me happiness on their own..is this what you want to tell me?

There will always be something missing, yet there is always more to run after. Kind of a Mirage. An Illusion…

So linking happiness with achievement is an illusion. Happiness is independent. An independent reality. It needs no external resources to be fully experienced.

Postponing Happiness is the illusion. So it’s about taking the decision to be content and happy right now, right here!

Happiness is a Choice I shall make. A Choice I’m responsible for…


Socrates’ Secret

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” – Socrates

Huh?

Do you want to tell me that during all these years where we have been chasing our desires, listing our endless goals, starving to get more & more of “stuff” in our lives, and jumping from one dream to another…all of that was a big fat illusion?

Do you want to tell me that the more we achieve, the more we feel unhappy? Do you want to say that once we get what we want, we start looking for the next to-do thing in our list? and that we don’t even dedicate the time to enjoy what we have just achieved?

Do you want to tell me that we stop our joy until we get what we want, yet once we do we find out that we are still unhappy? that we neither enjoy the journey nor the results?

Do you want to tell me that we are like rats in a race? thriving to get to the “Finish” point, while all we do is starting all over again from where we began?

Do you want to tell me that the paradigms of “Doing More” and “Getting More” that the modern societies planted in our minds, fed it through their Education and Economical systems are deceptive and misleading?

Four Hundred years BC you’ve revealed this to the human race…400 years BC!!!

Have we been manipulated? Or have we contributed to our own manipulation?

The Truth is un-arguable Socrates…We cannot hit ourselves against it because if we do we will fall…


The Paradox of Choice

I just finished watching this TED talk by Barry Schwartz, American Psychologist, author of the book “The Paradox of Choice, Why more is Less”.

What Barry is trying to say is that the more choices we have, the more expectations we have, the more hesitated we become, the more frustrated we feel, especially when we start to think that our choice was not the best one.

As an aggressive believer in Freedom of Choice, my paradigm shifted a little bit when I opened my eyes to this hypothesis, although it seems to be much more of a fact.

And what is more mysterious is that even when you have a clear set of criteria of what your choice shall be, you still feel uncomfortable when faced with various ones. The battle of choosing what is “perfect” turns into an intrinsic war and ends up with feelings of blame and guilt. “I could have done better” kind of statements pop up in your mind, you start wining and complaining…So, instead of embracing the choice, believing in it and turning it into a promising opportunity, you give it up. You lose it the moment you started the re-thinking process of the other choices…

This will lead us to a conclusion: Limit your choices, Eliminate the unnecessary. In other words Live Simply. A very challenging conclusion when it comes to practice in a world that believes “More” is equivalent to “Better”…


Give it a Meaning

I’ve come  to a conclusion that may help us change our behavior towards what we are unhappy about in our lives.

The Rational goes like this:

We keep doing things in  our lives  (job, studies, diet, exercising, general lifestyle..etc) that make us unhappy, whether it is because we are not convinced of doing them, or because we think we have no other options. Whatever the motive is, the result is whenever we do them , we find ourselves walking through the path of sadness and we unconsciously  empower the destructive negative emotions of victimization, lack of power, lack of influence, hopelessness…

Let’s assume that we still have to keep doing these stuff since we are not yet able to see other alternatives. What we ought to do then is to find a way to live in harmony with them. And actually we are generally very good at making this camouflage, pretending to embrace our life realities. Yet, soon the masks go down and the struggle remains.

So what if we try to fix this by diving deeper than the surface. What if we try to give a MEANING for whatever that we do in our lives.  I noticed that when we give a meaning to any action we take, it adds a sense of purpose, a signification. It adds another dimension, a value…Exploring the meaning behind our actions will truly help  us accept what we were not able to accept so far, and  it might eventually grant us the power to dare and make a change. It will put straight Why we do what we do and how long we want to carry this luggage with us.

And one final note, Getting the meaning out is a process that I believe needs Mind Flexibility. We must be willing to let go of our own paradigms, contemplate the situation from different perspectives, and finally link the dots.

Try it, you have nothing to lose anyway! and I will try it myself and report the results that I believe will make a difference…


The Battles Within

If you are tired of fighting the problems that keep showing up in your life, struggling with people or circumstances..if you feel like everything you wanted is taking a different path than yours and you became stuck in a place you don’t like..if you think you’re trying your best to do the right thing and do things right yet you still hit the wall..if you started to believe that everything got out of control and that life is a bitch.. You have just fallen in the deep down hole made by your worst enemy: YOURSELF

Of course you are wondering how come? you cannot be fighting against yourself? it doesn’t make sense..it’s easier and simpler to believe that people are fighting against you, circumstances as well, or any other external factor whatever it might be. But the hard truth is: We create the battles in our minds, we distribute the roles of the play, we act accordingly until we get so drained by the play’s events that we forget it was of our own mind creation..

The game stars within..here..in our minds. By nature, we tend to be happy and joyful..but with fear showing up on the surface, we become defensive and tend to protect this nature .Unconsciously, by this act of protection, we allowed fear to penetrate our hearts. It’s this fear that creates all the battles, all the fights, all the struggles. We are afraid to lose ourselves, our hopes, our dreams, our happiness. And the more we let the fear take over the steering wheel, the more our battles get bigger, stronger, harder, and tougher.

So start by admitting that YOU are your first and single battle. Then work on yourself by aligning your nature with your desires. In other words, decide upon what you want to do with your life and believe you can do it. When you believe, it becomes easy to create the habits, the tasks, and the life style that will lead you there. A burning desire and a strong belief will keep you up there defeating your inner battles against Fear and freeing yourself from its chains.

In life, you don’t get the chance to play again . It’s a one time shot! and you know within yourself that it’s not worth all these struggles.

Life is actually simple and always calls for us to enjoy its company..So don’t be fool and reject the invitation!


Do We Live With PaSSion?

I’ve just come to realize how deep the statement “living with passion” is.

I used to think that living with passion & doing what you love with fulfillment and satisfaction is not something meant to be for everybody and that only few people enjoyed this attribute. I also had the perception that those who lived with passion were artists, philosophers, generally speaking weird people, isolated and never understood by ordinary people like us!

I developed these thoughts gradually since I rarely had the opportunity to see examples of people in my community pursuing their passion, living and becoming it..and I remember calling “Crazy” those who did it!

I started lately to read about the truth behind living the life of your dreams. Naturally the voice inside of me easily accepted these new perspectives. That’s when I knew that living with passion is not a particular right for the elite  and that we all have the CHOICE to do so only if we want to.

My job was then to discover what my passions are (I was more familiar with the term “hobbies”). It was a very hard job I must admit! I asked people how do they see me, what are my strengths, I did personality tests, read books yet the picture didn’t get any clearer..

I was just about to give up when it hit me:

I realized that living with passion does not necessarily means that you have to have a supernatural incredible fantastic gift and that only with this gift you will be able to fulfill your passion. I realized that living with passion is  simply waking up every day excited to live a new day, spending time doing what you love like playing music, listening to music, reading a good book, meditating, being around your family….etc. Living with passion is opening your heart to life, listening to your inner voice, being grateful and happy from within. Living with passion is allowing yourself to be yourself and enjoying every bit of it.