Category Archives: Love

Do we Speak the Same Language?

Obviously we need to speak one common language for us to understand each other. This “same” language is not only about grammatical syntactic comprehensive words.It also includes all non-verbal communication through the eyes, the face, the body.

Yet, Emotions seem to be the most challenging language we struggle to decode. Maybe because it doesn’t have rules, and it is not a standard language with clear definitions illustrated in a dictionary.

In Love, there are languages too. They say there are five languages of love. Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

What usually happens that cause partners to drift apart is their inability to understand each others’ languages, since each one of us expresses love in a certain way and at the same time expects this love to return back in the same form. And that is far from being real…

Everyone of us, men and women, speak from two to three languages of love. You might not realize it but if you start paying attention to the way you express your emotions, you will find a dominant one, followed by one or 2 others. A woman can express her love to her man by preparing a nice romantic dinner. While he prefers to be close to her physically. And a man needs from his woman to affirm her love using kind gentle words, yet she prefers he’d help her more in the house chores.

The thing is in any couple, there might be different dominant love languages. And that is not a disaster! because still there can be other secondary common languages. But if in a relationship, there are NO common languages at all, then the result is predictable and unavoidable…

The key here for the spouse is to start by discovering his/her own language,  and noticing his/her partner’s. What comes after is making the decision and choosing to speak your partner’s language. This is considered as one the biggest deposits you can make in a couple’s emotional bank account. The more you communicate with the right mean, the more you increase your account balance. The less you do, the more you make huge emotional withdrawals.

Sometimes it happens to see your partner having difficulties understanding your language. Don’t get frustrated and start losing hope, you just need to simply tell him/her how you like it..no need to feel awkward in clearly communicating it.  After all, we cannot expect a long-lasting healthy relationship without open communication..

In other words, treat others as you wish to be treated. Make an effort to listen and understand before seeking to be understood. What you give you get back…

For more info on the topic of the Five languages of love, check this link and take the assessment:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/


Where is it going your ship?

Relationships..Tadaaa!

Complicated? Oh yeah..

Rewarding? Oh yeah!!

Have you ever noticed this “relation” “ship” meaning perception? Is it really about a ship that 2 partners decide to take? I’m not sure that when they take it, they do know where their destination is..They are just happy and excited about the journey..A lot of times they are not very prepared for the storms they will face..but maybe that’s better! Because they’d be afraid if they knew and they’d never go for it! And you know what? It’s not about the destination, It has nothing to do with it! The journey…Yes it’s all about it

I was never a relationship expert! I didn’t pay that much of attention on enhancing relationships and giving tips and advises since I’m kind of feminist..so it happened to me not to understand why is to so hard to dump someone who’s not good for you??

Even when I started to read about life coaching, I somehow wanted to avoid the “relationships” part, and I remember one of my mentors who told me you ain’t gonna make it this way..a life coach cannot be specialized, a life coach helps his people in every aspect of their lives, the aspect that they want to work on ..

And this is when the story began: I started to face the weirdest and toughest challenges about relationships. One experience after another for almost a year now where I faced INTENSE feelings of love, solitude, anger, boredom, disappointment, frustration, deception, and worst of all FEAR..

But what I realized the most is relationships are more about Giving rather than receiving, and when I say giving I don’t mean to give with the intention of receiving, I mean Giving because this “someone” means a lot to you and seeing the smile on his/her face is your reward.