Yesterday somehow I realized how much efforts we put on trying to be “someone” we are not. I didn’t see it that clear in myself, but it was very obvious in others’ behaviors. My mind started to do all the mapping, connecting what I was thinking about with my personal experiences, with friends’ experiences..and the image was suddenly clear: Yes, we do spend a lot of time and energy trying to fit in a model that do not, by any means, belong to our true essence & identity. Behind this behavior, we seek approval, acceptance, validation from others and from the whole society.
The thing is we only have ONE Life to live, so why wasting it in identifying ourselves through others? why can’t we just be ourselves? what stop us from choosing our own path? why do we insist on “duplication”, I mean being just a duplicate, another fake copy of the other? Don’t we realize how unhappy this makes us feel? How frustrating? How unworthy?
Fitting in the box of others is a true sad truth many of us live day after day. Only YOU can put an end to it. Listen to yourself, enough taming your true calling! Listen to it, give it a chance to manifest, to express and to be expressed.
Being Aware is the Key, you can’t move to the authentic part of you until you are aware you are living someone else’s life. This shall be the starting point of a journey lived truly by your own music..In the journey, there are always challenges, hardships, difficulties. So, don’t fool yourself by an imaginary too good to be true perception. The true perception lies in the results of how worthy and meaningful it is to live a life of your own choice…
“All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself.” ~Ralph Ellison, “Battle Royal”