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The Battles Within

If you are tired of fighting the problems that keep showing up in your life, struggling with people or circumstances..if you feel like everything you wanted is taking a different path than yours and you became stuck in a place you don’t like..if you think you’re trying your best to do the right thing and do things right yet you still hit the wall..if you started to believe that everything got out of control and that life is a bitch.. You have just fallen in the deep down hole made by your worst enemy: YOURSELF

Of course you are wondering how come? you cannot be fighting against yourself? it doesn’t make sense..it’s easier and simpler to believe that people are fighting against you, circumstances as well, or any other external factor whatever it might be. But the hard truth is: We create the battles in our minds, we distribute the roles of the play, we act accordingly until we get so drained by the play’s events that we forget it was of our own mind creation..

The game stars within..here..in our minds. By nature, we tend to be happy and joyful..but with fear showing up on the surface, we become defensive and tend to protect this nature .Unconsciously, by this act of protection, we allowed fear to penetrate our hearts. It’s this fear that creates all the battles, all the fights, all the struggles. We are afraid to lose ourselves, our hopes, our dreams, our happiness. And the more we let the fear take over the steering wheel, the more our battles get bigger, stronger, harder, and tougher.

So start by admitting that YOU are your first and single battle. Then work on yourself by aligning your nature with your desires. In other words, decide upon what you want to do with your life and believe you can do it. When you believe, it becomes easy to create the habits, the tasks, and the life style that will lead you there. A burning desire and a strong belief will keep you up there defeating your inner battles against Fear and freeing yourself from its chains.

In life, you don’t get the chance to play again . It’s a one time shot! and you know within yourself that it’s not worth all these struggles.

Life is actually simple and always calls for us to enjoy its company..So don’t be fool and reject the invitation!


Fear Not…

Fear Not FEAR…just like in a dream you believe everything is real then once awake you realize it’s no longer there. Fear is very alike. When you are afraid, you think threatening fearful thoughts and once you overcome them, you realize how illusionary they were. Fear was there. It existed just like a small flame shaking in the winds. But in your mind you saw it invincible and to intensify the picture you started feeding it  with extra frightening thoughts. Until reality & illusion united. They formed a strong “invincible” alley. You are trapped now. And You suffer from your own perceptions. You then decide not to suffer anymore. You decide to overcome your fears. You can do it! And you actually do it..this is when you start realizing how fear fooled you or maybe you fooled yourself!

The thing is even if Fear is there, do not fear it. It is part of who we are, part of our human imperfections. Accepting it as part of the process will help you break the “invincible” picture your mind draws.

At the end of your life, you don’t want to regret not doing what you wanted to do out of fear…


Conquer your Fear of Change

We live in a world full of changes and the changes happen too fast that we barely catch up with them.

Strange enough, when the change concerns our personal lives, we’re not very welcoming. We tend to think a lot about it, analyze it, slow it down, and even stop it just for the sake of staying in our comfort zones! A comfort zone is definitely much cozier, familiar, and inspires security & stability. And sometimes even when this comfortable zone is no longer comfortable, bringing us more troubles, we tend to cope rather than change, believing that it’d be safer and that things would eventually get better.

When faced with a decision where we have to choose between what is “known, comfy, warm” and what is “unknown, uncomfortable, risky”, we spend time thinking and re-thinking with a tendency to go for the first option. Few are those who chose the road not taken, the path that hides ambiguities. In reality, if we take a look on the stories of successful people, we’ll find that most if not all of them have dared to make a change, to take a different path, to step out from where they are to the unknown that holds multiple of new choices and opportunities – what in our language we call “risks”. Deepak Chopra, the worldwide public speaker and spiritual figure, once said: “Within uncertainty, you will find the freedom to create anything you want. The unknown is the field of all possibilities.”

If you seek different results in your life, you need to try new options; you just cannot keep trying the same old patterns and expect different results!

It is true that fear is a natural feeling that we all experience when put in unfamiliar situations, but it is by exploring these situations that we learn and allow our development. I once read a book that actually encourages us to start doing whatever causes us to feel afraid, whatever paralyzes our basic nature of self exploration. So, try this, make a list of what you are afraid to do with no reasonable justification, then start attacking your fear. Only by attacking fear, you will discover that it was an illusion, a mind trick that holds you back. For example, if you are afraid to speak in public, participate in an activity where you are asked to make live presentations. If you are hesitant about a decision, just take it and assume the consequences. Try, experience, and act because only “Action” will dissipate fear. Living in the shadow of fear, however, won’t allow you to enjoy life fully.

On the other hand, the changes don’t have to be drastic. If you want to bring change in your life, try including new and small ones. You can start a new activity, like a sport, a music class. You can change your daily routine, change the subjects you talk about, change your attitude or behavior in certain situations. You can actually start by smiling more! What is important here is to create something new, break the chains and escape your own prison. And it’s very normal to make mistakes, so don’t be harsh on yourself since you will learn throughout the process and adjust yourself. By allowing these small changes, you will be more flexible towards making big ones. And furthermore, you will develop your own navigation system that will guide you throughout the journey. In other words, you will learn to make the right choices that suit your personality.