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Postponing Happiness

I’m not Happy… I’m not Happy because my life is a mess, I can’t achieve my goals, I have debts, I live from paycheck to paycheck, I eat junk food, I’m fat, I rarely exercise, I’m not progressing the way I want in my career, I have troubles in my relationships and people can’t even understand me.

I’m just not Happy living this life…

What???!! You want me to be happy Now? Are you blind? Didn’t you hear what I just said? Do you want me to be unrealistic and deceive my own self? What is good about my life to be happy about? I’m not even close to where I want to be!

If I won’t be happy now, when I will be Happy? Well, when I achieve my dreams and goals. Yes Only when I do it…Uhhh, yeah of course I have achieved some stuff before, but it’s different now..I mean now I want different things. What I used to dream of yesterday no longer serves me today…

Yes I know I thought I was going to be happy when I’ve achieved those stuff but…you know what? Even after I did, I wasn’t that happy! I expected to be happier honestly but I just wasn’t…

Oh! Do you want to say that I keep telling myself I will be happy when…….but when I’ll do it, I will not feel that content just like before?

My mind is tricking me, isn’t it? Those stuff I want to achieve will not bring me happiness on their own..is this what you want to tell me?

There will always be something missing, yet there is always more to run after. Kind of a Mirage. An Illusion…

So linking happiness with achievement is an illusion. Happiness is independent. An independent reality. It needs no external resources to be fully experienced.

Postponing Happiness is the illusion. So it’s about taking the decision to be content and happy right now, right here!

Happiness is a Choice I shall make. A Choice I’m responsible for…

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Socrates’ Secret

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” – Socrates

Huh?

Do you want to tell me that during all these years where we have been chasing our desires, listing our endless goals, starving to get more & more of “stuff” in our lives, and jumping from one dream to another…all of that was a big fat illusion?

Do you want to tell me that the more we achieve, the more we feel unhappy? Do you want to say that once we get what we want, we start looking for the next to-do thing in our list? and that we don’t even dedicate the time to enjoy what we have just achieved?

Do you want to tell me that we stop our joy until we get what we want, yet once we do we find out that we are still unhappy? that we neither enjoy the journey nor the results?

Do you want to tell me that we are like rats in a race? thriving to get to the “Finish” point, while all we do is starting all over again from where we began?

Do you want to tell me that the paradigms of “Doing More” and “Getting More” that the modern societies planted in our minds, fed it through their Education and Economical systems are deceptive and misleading?

Four Hundred years BC you’ve revealed this to the human race…400 years BC!!!

Have we been manipulated? Or have we contributed to our own manipulation?

The Truth is un-arguable Socrates…We cannot hit ourselves against it because if we do we will fall…


Give it a Meaning

I’ve come  to a conclusion that may help us change our behavior towards what we are unhappy about in our lives.

The Rational goes like this:

We keep doing things in  our lives  (job, studies, diet, exercising, general lifestyle..etc) that make us unhappy, whether it is because we are not convinced of doing them, or because we think we have no other options. Whatever the motive is, the result is whenever we do them , we find ourselves walking through the path of sadness and we unconsciously  empower the destructive negative emotions of victimization, lack of power, lack of influence, hopelessness…

Let’s assume that we still have to keep doing these stuff since we are not yet able to see other alternatives. What we ought to do then is to find a way to live in harmony with them. And actually we are generally very good at making this camouflage, pretending to embrace our life realities. Yet, soon the masks go down and the struggle remains.

So what if we try to fix this by diving deeper than the surface. What if we try to give a MEANING for whatever that we do in our lives.  I noticed that when we give a meaning to any action we take, it adds a sense of purpose, a signification. It adds another dimension, a value…Exploring the meaning behind our actions will truly help  us accept what we were not able to accept so far, and  it might eventually grant us the power to dare and make a change. It will put straight Why we do what we do and how long we want to carry this luggage with us.

And one final note, Getting the meaning out is a process that I believe needs Mind Flexibility. We must be willing to let go of our own paradigms, contemplate the situation from different perspectives, and finally link the dots.

Try it, you have nothing to lose anyway! and I will try it myself and report the results that I believe will make a difference…


The Questions Are Mine

These are not questions. Call them interrogative statements of wonder, inspection, puzzlement..

– Why do we struggle to see the picture clear?

– Why can’t we clearly listen to the truth echoing in our hearts?

– Why don’t we trust the voices of our instincts?

– Why don’t we act upon our true beliefs?

– Why do we choose our own stagnation while we strive for real change?

– Why do we hold on to our griefs while all we want is to be happy?

– Why don’t we change what we keep condemning and criticizing?

– Why don’t we get out of our own buble and envy those who do?

– Why do we ignore the heart when it cries out to be heard?

– Why do we ignore the soul when it burns to be freely expressed?

– Why do we ignore the body when it keeps sending us signals of exhaustion?

The Answers are yours…


Don’t Bury the Light

Legendary Pink Floyd – The Wall, “Hey You”

Hey you

Out there in the cold

Getting lonely, getting old

Can you feel me?

Hey you

Standing in the aisles

With itchy feet and fading smiles

Can you feel me?

Hey you

Don’t help them to bury the light

Don’t give in without a fight


Do We Live With PaSSion?

I’ve just come to realize how deep the statement “living with passion” is.

I used to think that living with passion & doing what you love with fulfillment and satisfaction is not something meant to be for everybody and that only few people enjoyed this attribute. I also had the perception that those who lived with passion were artists, philosophers, generally speaking weird people, isolated and never understood by ordinary people like us!

I developed these thoughts gradually since I rarely had the opportunity to see examples of people in my community pursuing their passion, living and becoming it..and I remember calling “Crazy” those who did it!

I started lately to read about the truth behind living the life of your dreams. Naturally the voice inside of me easily accepted these new perspectives. That’s when I knew that living with passion is not a particular right for the elite  and that we all have the CHOICE to do so only if we want to.

My job was then to discover what my passions are (I was more familiar with the term “hobbies”). It was a very hard job I must admit! I asked people how do they see me, what are my strengths, I did personality tests, read books yet the picture didn’t get any clearer..

I was just about to give up when it hit me:

I realized that living with passion does not necessarily means that you have to have a supernatural incredible fantastic gift and that only with this gift you will be able to fulfill your passion. I realized that living with passion is  simply waking up every day excited to live a new day, spending time doing what you love like playing music, listening to music, reading a good book, meditating, being around your family….etc. Living with passion is opening your heart to life, listening to your inner voice, being grateful and happy from within. Living with passion is allowing yourself to be yourself and enjoying every bit of it.